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Happiness is A Choice

Life is supposed to be easy but humans complicate things. I admit, I used to complicate my own life. Now, I’m keeping things simple. And I try to find the joy in the simple things.

I used to be clinically depressed. For almost all my life, I was unhappy and sad. And at the back of my head I always had an excuse for being sad. I always told my self that since I was sexually abused, I deserved to be punished. I deserved to be unhappy. But that was the excuse. Just because I was sexually abused as a child doesn’t mean that I have to carry that sadness and trauma for the rest of my life.

I punished myself for what happened. I felt guilty. I felt that I deserved to be unhappy. But that was the lie I told myself. I kept telling myself that I was a victim of circumstances and I had every right to be unhappy. But that was just an excuse so that I could prevent myself from being happy. The thing is, I can’t undo the past. And I’m not unique. Tragedies happen to people. And one must never take things personally. It happened not just to me but to other people as well. But other people have since moved on with their lives.

Life isn’t perfect. But happiness is absolute. All we need to do is to decide to be happy. All we need to do is just to drop all pretenses. Why shouldn’t we be happy? If you can choose a life of utter misery and a life of utter happiness, which would you choose? Of course, the answer may seem obvious but not many of us make the effort to choose happiness.

My cousin, who apparently doesn’t follow her own advice, once said to me, ” Happiness is a choice. Suffering is optional.” When she told me that, I could never understand it. But now I do. In a strange twist of fate, she’s the one who doesn’t understand or appreciate the wisdom behind her own words.

It is true. Life is supposed to be simple. If you want to be loved, then show love. If you want to be happy, then do things that make you happy. If you want to be wealthy, then work towards your goal. If you want to be a better person, then as much as possible, do good deeds. If you want laughter in your life, then make jokes.

The Buddhists have known for centuries how powerful the gift of choice is. Change starts from within.If you want to change your world, first start with yourself.


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